Greetings, AbbyI am a woman of 48 years of age. I started seeing this guy who was in my friend circle when I was seventeen. I chose to have sex with him in his car since I knew he was crushing on me. For him, it meant everything, but for me, it meant nothing.
Over the years, he has attempted to contact me. He was unmarried if I was. I did had a brief reunion with my first husband after his death. I suppose I should have refrained from doing it. He was married when I asked if he wanted to go on a date. (His marriage was short-lived.) Then he became irritated that I was dating a great man.
My old high school hookup is pouting and disappointed since I’m married to that amazing man. He’s saying that he loves me and that I should leave my marriage for him. That is not what I will do. Is it romantic or unsettling that he still loves me after thirty years?Texas has a history.
DEAR GOT HISTORY:It seems that your relationship from high school hasn’t developed emotionally since then. What’s going on in his mind is rude, not romantic. It’s a little unsettling that he is unable or unwilling to advance in his own life.
Say that when you advise him to get on with his own life and stop bothering you and your husband. After that, block him if you need to.
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Greetings, AbbyThree months ago, my son and daughter-in-law welcomed their first child into the world. On both sides, this was the first grandchild. For two weeks following the cesarean delivery, her mother remained with her. That doesn’t bother me.
My problem is that when they and the baby got home from the hospital, my son told me I had to go. I live six and a half hours away, mind you. When they returned home, I resisted him to get at least three days. He then told me that I had to go, but he never told his father-in-law to do so. Additionally, they asked me to stay at a motel while her parents stayed with them on the days I did visit. I was only able to visit throughout the day.
My kid accused me of being a drama queen when I told him that I was upset. I complied with all of their requests. All I want to know is whether it was wrong of me to express my feelings or if I should have kept quiet. We are now at odds because of it.First-rate in Tennessee
Greetings, Second-Class:It’s not about you in this scenario. It’s about a new baby and getting used to being a parent. When you said what you did, you might have came out as overly assertive and demanding.
Your daughter-in-law needed her mother, not her mother-in-law, when she recovered from surgery following the birth of her first child. Most likely, her father was included in the box. You will be much less welcome than you are now if you turn this into a competition.
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