A mother is coming out after learning that her meticulously preserved breast milk was thrown out—not accidentally, but with her husband and mother-in-law’s consent and without her knowledge.
The woman revealed in a now-viral Reddit post that she kept her supply of breastmilk in the freezer at home before to departing on an eight-month journey overseas. She intended to utilize the milk for other things, like making soap or milk baths, even though she had a suspicion that it might not be fresh enough to feed her infant when she returned.
In our enormous freezer, I kept a frozen stash. In order to conserve electricity, we switched it to the smaller one and disconnected the larger one before we left,” she added. That milk needed to stay frozen, so the little freezer remained plugged in. I warned my spouse that he should never throw anything out.
The milk did not survive in spite of their explicit directions. Her husband came home to perform some remodeling while she and her infant were away. She returned and checked for the stash, but everything was gone. Her husband initially said he had no idea what had happened. Shortly after, he acknowledged that his mother might have thrown it away with his consent.
The woman wrote, “He said yes when she asked if she could throw it.” Both of them were in the kitchen. They never informed me of their choice, in addition to making it behind my back. I had to find it out for myself.
When she challenged them, things rapidly became heated. The husband supported his mother and even went so far as to declare his wife a horrible mother for raising her voice, but the mother-in-law begged her to stop yelling because it was harmful for our boy.
The poster made it clear that the problem was not only bad breast milk but also a lack of basic consideration, communication, and respect. I kept telling my hubby how much I valued that stash. After looking it over, I might have thrown it out myself, but I wanted it to be my option.
She continued by saying that she had a long and difficult history with her in-laws and that she has had to reevaluate her relationship with them as a result of their betrayal, particularly her husband’s inconsistent justifications and lack of responsibility.
She said, “I know I’m not overreacting, but I’m being made to feel like I’ve lost my mind.” This significantly alters my perception of my husband.
She was quickly supported by other mothers in the comments, one of whom wrote: You are not overreacting. The time and effort required to accumulate a milk hoard is astounding. You have every right to be frustrated.
Since then, the heartfelt essay has spurred a wider online discussion on respect in marriages, boundaries, and the emotional toll that moms frequently bear alone.
