After the friend insisted on bringing a plus-one, the groom kicked his best man out of the wedding party.
The 35-year-old groom, who posted on Reddit’s sWedding Shamingforum, revealed that his lifelong friend, who is also 35, accepted the position of best man but then asked to bring a visitor despite the fact that he was unmarried and had known the most of the guests as close family friends for our whole lives.
At first, the groom and his 30-year-old fiancée had not intended to let the single buddy have a plus-one. Although they pointed out that he already knew a lot of the visitors, they informed him that they would take it into consideration and requested him to hold off until the final guest list was established.
The groom noted that he continued to press the issue and did not accept this as an answer. He wanted to bring along an acquaintance who neither my fiancé nor I had ever met, nor a romantic partner. When I mentioned that I was hesitant to have a stranger attend the wedding, [he] became agitated.
The groom allegedly wanted the best man to feel alone at the wedding, but he claimed he wasn’t asking too much. If money was a problem, he even offered to cover his guests’ meals.
The groom said, “I told him his friend could come,” to keep the peace. However, he expressed his displeasure and stated that he wasn’t even certain if he still wanted to travel.
They had a heated phone conversation after the groom gave his best man a few days to calm down.
According to the groom, he reiterated his anger over not being allowed to bring a guest, even though we had promised to allow him to do so. He was so furious that he did not want to meet us before to the ceremony. This was especially devastating because he should have been planning and hosting my bachelor party as the best man. It was also heartbreaking to hear this lifelong friend, who is extremely close to us, explain that he no longer wanted to see us.
The best man did not want to hear it, canceled their suit buying trip, and suddenly hung up when attempts were made to convey his point of view.
The best man contacted the next day to ask if they could put the argument behind them and move on. However, the groom refused to allow the friend to continue serving as best man because he felt he should be held accountable for his immature and emotionally manipulative actions.
The groom, who is getting married in November, stated, “I told him I no longer wanted him to be my best man” when he failed to apologize.
Given that he knows a lot of people who would be attending and wanted to bring someone neither my fiancé nor I had met, I think it is a little out of the question for him to insist on having a plus-one as a member of the bridal party who is not in a relationship. The main problem, though, is his behavior, since I don’t think he can set aside his emotions and support me on my special day.
Since the demotion, the two men have not communicated. The groom is unsure if he and his ex-best man are still friends or if he will be a guest.
Many Redditors supported the best man, arguing that it was utterly irrational for the groom to turn down a plus-one while expecting him to do several wedding-related duties.
One reviewer said, “I think it is very tacky not to give your bridal party a plus-one.” For wedding-related expenses, they are frequently required to spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars. But you want to save money, so you’re going to turn around and tell them they can’t have a plus-one?
