After having trouble with his wife’s new friend, who he claims has been treating his house like her own, a guy turned to the Reddit community for guidance. According to the poster, his wife has just known this woman for a few months; she hasn’t been a longstanding friend.
He writes, “My wife’s new friend is loud, childish, and really annoying.” Although he acknowledges that he might put up with brief, infrequent visits, the friend has established a regular presence in their house.
The spouse claims that she has been showing up for hours at a time almost every day. He says she has been coming over every day since this month and spends hours irking us constantly, calling her actions oppressive and suffocating.
He makes it clear that he gets along well with his wife’s other friends and that they are not the source of his problem. He adds, “This new friendship feels very different. I get along well with her friends; they are kind and polite, and they and their husbands have become my friends as well.”
When the woman became especially disruptive during a recent visit, the tension reached its apex. He explains, “I asked her to lower her voice because I had enough of her annoying behavior yesterday.” But her reaction only made things worse.
Rather than adapting, she allegedly made fun of him. He remembers that she mockingly asks him, “Why would I do that?” which makes him more rigid in his boundaries.
He bluntly explained to her why her actions were harmful. I explained that she needed to respect their space because she doesn’t live here, it’s my house, and she’s bothering everyone.
The scenario then became more heated when he issued an ultimatum. He claims he wasn’t being mean, just being honest, when he adds, “I told her to shut up or leave my house.”
He defended his stance when the woman accused him of being impolite. She claimed that I was kicking her out and treating her rudely. He clarifies, “I am being honest with her; I am not being impolite to her.” She frequently acts as though his home were a hotel.
His wife stepped in when things became too heated. He notes that his wife was shocked by how irritated he had become and writes, “She was angry, and before it escalated, my wife asked her to leave.”
His wife realized the issue after the matter was resolved. “I wonder if my reaction was justified,” he says, “because my wife said she didn’t know that her friend was bothering us so much and she won’t let her come over anymore.”
Users responded quickly, and many of them agreed with his decision to establish limits in his own house.
Some folks can’t read the room, according to one commenter. They only know how incredibly amusing they are and nothing else. “People like that often need blunt honesty to curb their behavior,” the user continued.
Another concurred, noting that he had presented a reasonable option. NTA. She must show consideration for your home. The commentator clarified, “If that is a problem for her, the answer was to leave, but you didn’t kick her out; you gave her a choice.”
Even though the wife’s new friendship may have started out innocently, the man felt compelled to put his family’s comfort ahead of civility.
