A lady claims that although she is deeply attracted to the new man in her life, she is concerned about his dirty house.
She told her story in the Am I Being Unreasonable? forum on Mumsnet.com, a website established in the United Kingdom that provides a platform for people to ask for guidance on personal issues. She called the new man she’s been seeing “lovely” in her message.
We have a lot in common and really clicked. She claimed that he works hard and treats me well.
But the original poster (OP), who acknowledged having some OCD tendencies when it came to cleanliness, was devastated when he recently paid his house a first visit.
It was dirty. She described the scene as “dirty, grimy, and sticky,” adding that he has two dogs permitted on all of the furniture, leaving dog hair all over the place.
She stated that the bathrooms were particularly terrible and that a lot of the house smelled like dog poop.
He was barefoot and his feet were black, but I wore my socks the entire time I was there! Additionally, the backyard was in disarray.
According to the OP, she is anticipated to return to his house shortly, but the very prospect makes her shiver.
She’s not sure whether he’s serious about cleaning up the mess, even though he informed her he understands the issue and is working to find a solution.
What am I doing? “I really like this guy, and aside from this one issue, he’s great!” she added.
The OP was cautioned by the majority of commenters that her new partner’s lack of hygiene could be a serious red flag and could make a long-term relationship challenging.
You are incompatible. “It’s a huge problem,” someone wrote.
Horrible. You are incompatible. You are not supposed to fix him. He is this person. Add another and dump him.
For me, this would be a deal breaker. Another commenter commented, “You sound incompatible, and it would be extremely stressful.”
Some even hinted that his severe lack of hygiene would affect other aspects of his life.
You mention this one problem, but I’d be shocked if his sluggishness and extremely low standards didn’t show up in other facets of his life and character as well, someone wrote.
